In the everyday chaos of things, it can be easy to get thrown into a routine and stay there. This can be especially true if you have a significant other. With work, appointments, taking care of yourself, and everything else that gets jammed into your daily schedule, it can be difficult to try and squeeze in real quality time with your boo. You might find yourself just going through the motions with your partner, rather than really appreciating the time you spend together. And if this has made you feel distant from your special person, you may be trying to think of little ways to get closer to your partner.
Candice Smith, sex expert and founder of Two to Tango Intimacy Coaching, tells Bustle, “I like to think of relationship maintenance like tending a garden. While the occasional grand gesture can be exciting and great, just as occasionally adding plant fertilizer can help a plant bloom, plants thrive most with regular nurturing and watering. Keep your romantic bond strong with regular small interactions that show your partner how much you care — and your relationship will continue to grow, blossom, and thrive.” And if you’re looking for ways to keep your garden green, here are 24 things you can do to feel closer to your partner this week.
1. Ask Each Other The ’36 Questions’
A 1997 study by several psychologists called “The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness” looked at whether two strangers could fall in love quickly by asking each other a set of personal questions. A pair of volunteers in the study got married and the questions also worked for writer Mandy Le Catron when she tried them with a friend after a bad breakup.
As one of the study authors put it, “One key pattern associated with the development of a close relationship among peers is sustained, escalating, reciprocal, personal self-disclosure.”
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